{"id":177,"date":"2016-01-13T09:30:21","date_gmt":"2016-01-13T09:30:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cutekink.com\/?p=177"},"modified":"2016-04-02T09:12:52","modified_gmt":"2016-04-02T14:12:52","slug":"why-dont-women-watch-porn","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cutekink.com\/index\/why-dont-women-watch-porn\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Don’t Women Watch Porn?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Even with all the sex positive, alternative porn out there, men are still consuming porn at much higher rates than women. If this Danish Study<\/a> is anything to go by, men are still the largest porn users. \u00a0According to the PornHub.com 2015 annual report<\/a>, the amount of\u00a0female visitors is only 24% of their traffic. Although that number is up 1% from last year.<\/p>\n

So women do watch porn, but at nowhere near the rates that men do. What\u2019s up, ladies?<\/p>\n

When I draw porn it is mostly with women in mind (and open-minded, awesome men) so the idea that women don\u2019t consume pornography concerns me greatly. Not only from a personal stand point, but from a business one. This inspired me to dive into the issue further (not to mention the fact that I love to use the term \u201cconsume pornography\u201d).<\/p>\n

As a woman who not only watches, but also draws porn, and has many friends who also consume porn, I have quite a few thoughts on the topic.<\/p>\n

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Women are told they don\u2019t watch porn<\/h3>\n

The power of suggestion is a huge barrier. I strongly believe that a lot of our stereotypical gender norms are learned. A lot of the arguments are based on pop-evolutionary-psychological theories about how men are more visually stimulated than women, because they had to hunt for bison\u2026 or whatever.
\nWomen are told they don\u2019t like porn, which immediately creates a barrier to entry. They go into it expecting not to enjoy it, or they don\u2019t bother exploring it at all. Once they are past the exploration stage of their sexual development, they\u2019ve left the idea of enjoying porn far behind. Women have to get the idea that porn isn\u2019t for them, out of their heads.<\/p>\n

They have been made to feel ashamed<\/h3>\n

I remember the first time a friend in high school asked me if I masturbated. \u201cYou don\u2019t masturbate, do you?\u201d A bit of a loaded question, don\u2019t you think? When young girls see masturbation as gross, they certainly don\u2019t think about watching porn.<\/p>\n

There stereotype that boys are sex crazed, and women aren\u2019t interested in sexual pleasure starts at a young age. Boys are \u201csupposed\u201d to be horny and sexually active, on the other hand women suffer from the stereotype that they are not interested in sex, and need a male to introduce them to it. This means young girls aren\u2019t encouraged to explore their own sexuality, and instead wait for a boy to educate them.
\nThis has many repercussions for women outside of watching porn, including difficulty in climaxing and shame associated with having sexual desire. That shame can easily follow us into adulthood, and stop women from wanting to explore it even at a mature age.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s made for men<\/h3>\n

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Although there are a plethora of alternative porn sources, most porn today is still made with men in mind. For young girls starting out on their porn journey, the first things they are likely to find are the same kinds of porn their brothers or male school mates are finding. Which is usually porn that\u2019s full of girls who look nothing like them, getting fucked without any foreplay, and screaming like an anime school girl.<\/p>\n

\"anime-girl\"<\/p>\n

If the first porn they see is completely unappealing to them, do you really think they\u2019ll be inclined to search for more?<\/p>\n

The quality is low<\/h3>\n

When I watch porn I want to feel that the actors are enjoying themselves. I don\u2019t want to watch something cheesy with bad acting and crappy sets. A lot of women can\u2019t get past bad production quality and still enjoy what\u2019s going on. I hope most men prefer higher production quality too, but I think that this is a greater barrier for young women watching porn than it is for young men.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not sure why this is, I don\u2019t think it\u2019s because men are \u201cmore visual\u201d but it might have to do with men\u2019s ability to mentally let go when they are trying to orgasm. Women have more sexual baggage to let go of first.<\/p>\n

\"bad<\/p>\n

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Women do watch porn, they just don\u2019t call it porn<\/h3>\n

The obvious answer is that women are watching porn, they\u2019re just not talking about it. Either they are ashamed, or simply don\u2019t want to share that part of their personal time. We even have to be wary of the information in studies, because humans are notoriously bad at self-reporting their habits.<\/p>\n

I also wonder if women are consuming porn but not really thinking about it as porn. Especially if the goal is not about having an orgasm. Women will read erotic stories to unwind from their day, or watch videos and look at photos for enjoyment on a level that isn\u2019t linked to cumming. They might not consider it watching porn in the same way men do.<\/p>\n

I also think this point hearkens back to my idea about women being shamed out of watching porn. If they are told it\u2019s not for them, or that it\u2019s something shameful, they certainly aren\u2019t going to share their experiences openly.<\/p>\n

Final thoughts<\/h3>\n

Porn has gotten a lot better in the last decade. It\u2019s certainly better than it was when I was growing up. But there is also a lot of bad quality stuff that\u2019s really easy to find. You can find good porn, but the industry is still incredibly skewed towards a certain kind of imagery aimed at young men.<\/p>\n

I really want to create porn that women will enjoy, with characters that look like them, who are enjoying themselves, with fun stories and beautiful drawings.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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